![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
Where's Spike when you need him? I could use some of his skills right now. Seriously. I'm in such a state at the moment that I don't know what to do! I have like four projects due next week that are huge, and I can't get any work done in the labs because I never get any work done there, and I can't get any done at home because I feel like a prisoner and it makes me six kinds of frantic. JMTV still needs to be finished, but I'm so stressed! OMG!
THE SAGA WITH THE R.A. CONTINUES.
Here's how all this began: 1. R.A. wanted to have a "house meeting," but I couldn't make it because I had class so I told her as much. I told her I would let her know a time when I could meet. 2. Instead of waiting for me to tell her when a time was convenient, she rescheduled the meeting the very next night. I told her ahead of time, "Look, I'm going to be in the lab working on Senior Project tonight. I will not be home until late." I also asked her what the meeting was about and she refused to tell, hemming and hawing around the issue. 3. Cue gigantic message scrawled on our mirror in EXPO about how she needs to know right this second when I can meet. 4. The emails began.
My email to the R.A.
Dear Amber,
My schedule is extremely hectic at the moment. Tomorrow I will be in class from 6AM straight until 9PM, and after that I will be working in the silkscreen studio, so I'm not sure when I will be home (for the past two nights, I've been in the labs until 1AM, so I expect it will be around then). I have three very large projects due next week, so I will be in and out of the apartment all weekend going to the labs/studios. I cannot skirt this studio time with these looming deadlines and I have no way to plan how long things will take me or how long I will need to be out. Definitely, the earliest I will be available for more flexible hours is Thursday and Friday of next week.
If the matters that need to be discussed at the house meeting are of an extremely pressing nature, please let me know and I will try to make some arrangements though I cannot make any set promises. However, if what needs to be discussed is not urgent, I really need to be concentrating on my assignments and studio time. Two of my projects that are due next week are group projects, and I owe it to my classmates to pull my share of the work, so it is vital to my grade and theirs that I show the proper and equal amounts of participation as everyone else.
I hope we can work something out soon.
Sincerely,
Savanna
------------------
The R.A.'s reply in all its unpunctuated glory. Notice how she carefully doesn't really answer my question about how vital the matters are.
Savanna,
well the meeting will take like 5 mins, nothing too long and we do not need to keep putting this off or things will just get worse.... there are things that need to be brought to everyones attention, as well as info that you need to know..
please let me know when you can talk to us... this week would be great...
------------------
My reply to the R.A.'s reply in which I once again ask what the meeting is about.
Dear Amber,
I really do not have time this week, and if it's something that will only take five minutes, then I cannot believe that it is something that is urgently necessary. I'm very sorry, but with my graduation pretty much depending on these classes, I hope you can understand why my priorities lie elsewhere. I'm not sure what's being going on that has turned into a dire situation. If it's about the housemate agreement thing, if you give me a copy, I can fill it out when I can and give it back to you. All I ask is that no one touch my property, i.e. food in the kitchen or my toiletries as these are the only items I keep in the common areas of the apartment, and thus far, no one has done that. If this meeting is only a sit-down meet & chat situation, then I really cannot make special arrangements for that. I'm on a tight schedule and am home for maybe three to five hours at a time, and that is the time I use for sleeping, eating, and showering.
Again, I'm very sorry. I will let you know a definitive time I can meet with you as soon as I'm sure that I will be available because I do not want you to have to keep scheduling meetings that it is impossible for me to show up for, thus taking up your time and the time of others.
-Savanna
------------------
The R.A.'s reply in which she yet again refuses to tell me what the meeting is about as well as the fact of calling me a liar about being busy because I come home to fucking sleep for three hours before I have to get up and work again.
i think that having this meeting is necessary. its not about "chatting" but about somethings that the room mates and i feel like need to be brought to everyones attention. as for the room mate agreement forms.... those are to be filled out with one another present, that way we all know your wishes on things. i do not have those forms yet but they are on their way.
i feel that 5 mins is not alot of time but that can clear up a few issues. i know that school comes first, as it should. however we have seen you come and go. and sometimes stay. you could have talked to us the few times that you have came in... i understand..... we are willing to try to find a time that is good for you. and this meeting is not pointless! i promise!
------------------
My reply in which I ask YET AGAIN about what the meeting is about and ask why she thinks it's fair that the other roommates know yet I am not allowed to know.
I will let you know when a time is convenient. I did come in today during the day as I forgot my Astronomy lab manual, but I left right after grabbing it. I was already running late and had to catch the bus when it was coming back around. I was also on the phone with my mother while you three were in the kitchen, so I was a bit preoccupied, so forgive me for not interrupting your conversation. As for any issues that are going on, I have to ask what are they? I have no idea, but it seems like you and the others have something definitive to talk about. I feel strangely out of the loop; I do not think that it is intentional, but when I have asked what this meeting is about, the issues that need discussing seem to be hedged around. There is nothing that can be discussed that can't be written, and I would just like a little forewarning. How can I deem the appropriateness of where this meeting should fall in my priorities if I can't know what it's about?
------------------
The R.A.'s reply in which she gets desperate.
somethings are just better said in person. i think that it would be the best thing. i do not want to share over email. i thin kin person would be best. i hope you understand .....
------------------
My reply in which I threaten to get the higher-ups in the housing staff's attention if I am not told what the hell is going on.
I'm very sorry, but I don't understand. If you and the other two roommates are aware of these matters, why am I the only one not allowed to know? If these issues are of such a grave nature, it might be best to have a third party present. This sounds like a very serious matter, and I think it might be best if the A.C. was a mediator again. I'll check my schedule, and then I'll see when there's a time that she can meet with all of us as a group.
------------------
The R.A.'s reply in which my threat apparently was the only way to get her to answer a simple. fucking. question!!!1!
its nothing that the A.C needs to be involved. she is on vacation.
they want to talk about food issues and air conditioner changing...and stuff like
that...
and maybe to try to get to know you. i am not sure.
let me know , ok
------------------
My reply in which I lay down the law and bring the hammer down... the hammer is not my metaphorical penis.
Amber,
Food and air conditioning? That's what couldn't be said in an email? Well, that's all you had to tell me. You made it seem like there was something seriously wrong, and I must say it is highly suspect when one asks what a meeting is about several times and is basically refused an answer.
The earliest I can meet is Wednesday (October 1st) at 7PM, no earlier/no later. I will give the five minutes you requested, but I have to leave right after to go back to the silkscreen lab as I have a project due on Thursday in that class (as well as an assignment in astronomy and a ten page paper due in Senior Project which I hope to get done this weekend but who knows). It might save some time for everyone to just say that I haven't and do not touched the thermostat, and it's fine where it is now. As for food, I don't want people touching my food, I don't touch other people's, and I haven't had any kind of problems with people in my things. And as far as getting to know me, I don't see why that is on the itinerary. Something like that would take much longer than five minutes, and also, should I not be involved in the decision who "gets to know" me? Is that not my right? The whole thing makes me uncomfortable as I am none of anyone else's concern. The food and air conditioning may be of some consequence, but "getting to know" me is an unimportant, frivolous, and wholly unnecessary enterprise and a poor excuse to deprive me of my studio time.
If 7PM on Wednesday is a problem, please let me know. The next time I could possibly meet is Friday (October 3rd) at 6PM.
- Savanna
--------------------
The main problem is that these are the types of girls who don't want to be my friend, they have no interest in being my friend, and have no interest in getting to know me, which if absolutely perfectly fine because I have no interest in being their friend or getting to know them. BUT! They can not understand that I don't want to be their friend. After all they are pretty, popular types! How dare I NOT want to be THEIR friend! *insert flounce here* So this whole meeting is a set up, and I refuse to be dragged down by this. I'm twenty-three fucking years old, I have my own friends and my own life, and I don't need this bullshit! I'm thinking about walking in and saying "Hello, my name is Savanna. I watch a lot of gay vampire porn, and I can fantasize about James Marsters naked constantly."
THE SAGA WITH THE R.A. CONTINUES.
Here's how all this began: 1. R.A. wanted to have a "house meeting," but I couldn't make it because I had class so I told her as much. I told her I would let her know a time when I could meet. 2. Instead of waiting for me to tell her when a time was convenient, she rescheduled the meeting the very next night. I told her ahead of time, "Look, I'm going to be in the lab working on Senior Project tonight. I will not be home until late." I also asked her what the meeting was about and she refused to tell, hemming and hawing around the issue. 3. Cue gigantic message scrawled on our mirror in EXPO about how she needs to know right this second when I can meet. 4. The emails began.
My email to the R.A.
Dear Amber,
My schedule is extremely hectic at the moment. Tomorrow I will be in class from 6AM straight until 9PM, and after that I will be working in the silkscreen studio, so I'm not sure when I will be home (for the past two nights, I've been in the labs until 1AM, so I expect it will be around then). I have three very large projects due next week, so I will be in and out of the apartment all weekend going to the labs/studios. I cannot skirt this studio time with these looming deadlines and I have no way to plan how long things will take me or how long I will need to be out. Definitely, the earliest I will be available for more flexible hours is Thursday and Friday of next week.
If the matters that need to be discussed at the house meeting are of an extremely pressing nature, please let me know and I will try to make some arrangements though I cannot make any set promises. However, if what needs to be discussed is not urgent, I really need to be concentrating on my assignments and studio time. Two of my projects that are due next week are group projects, and I owe it to my classmates to pull my share of the work, so it is vital to my grade and theirs that I show the proper and equal amounts of participation as everyone else.
I hope we can work something out soon.
Sincerely,
Savanna
------------------
The R.A.'s reply in all its unpunctuated glory. Notice how she carefully doesn't really answer my question about how vital the matters are.
Savanna,
well the meeting will take like 5 mins, nothing too long and we do not need to keep putting this off or things will just get worse.... there are things that need to be brought to everyones attention, as well as info that you need to know..
please let me know when you can talk to us... this week would be great...
------------------
My reply to the R.A.'s reply in which I once again ask what the meeting is about.
Dear Amber,
I really do not have time this week, and if it's something that will only take five minutes, then I cannot believe that it is something that is urgently necessary. I'm very sorry, but with my graduation pretty much depending on these classes, I hope you can understand why my priorities lie elsewhere. I'm not sure what's being going on that has turned into a dire situation. If it's about the housemate agreement thing, if you give me a copy, I can fill it out when I can and give it back to you. All I ask is that no one touch my property, i.e. food in the kitchen or my toiletries as these are the only items I keep in the common areas of the apartment, and thus far, no one has done that. If this meeting is only a sit-down meet & chat situation, then I really cannot make special arrangements for that. I'm on a tight schedule and am home for maybe three to five hours at a time, and that is the time I use for sleeping, eating, and showering.
Again, I'm very sorry. I will let you know a definitive time I can meet with you as soon as I'm sure that I will be available because I do not want you to have to keep scheduling meetings that it is impossible for me to show up for, thus taking up your time and the time of others.
-Savanna
------------------
The R.A.'s reply in which she yet again refuses to tell me what the meeting is about as well as the fact of calling me a liar about being busy because I come home to fucking sleep for three hours before I have to get up and work again.
i think that having this meeting is necessary. its not about "chatting" but about somethings that the room mates and i feel like need to be brought to everyones attention. as for the room mate agreement forms.... those are to be filled out with one another present, that way we all know your wishes on things. i do not have those forms yet but they are on their way.
i feel that 5 mins is not alot of time but that can clear up a few issues. i know that school comes first, as it should. however we have seen you come and go. and sometimes stay. you could have talked to us the few times that you have came in... i understand..... we are willing to try to find a time that is good for you. and this meeting is not pointless! i promise!
------------------
My reply in which I ask YET AGAIN about what the meeting is about and ask why she thinks it's fair that the other roommates know yet I am not allowed to know.
I will let you know when a time is convenient. I did come in today during the day as I forgot my Astronomy lab manual, but I left right after grabbing it. I was already running late and had to catch the bus when it was coming back around. I was also on the phone with my mother while you three were in the kitchen, so I was a bit preoccupied, so forgive me for not interrupting your conversation. As for any issues that are going on, I have to ask what are they? I have no idea, but it seems like you and the others have something definitive to talk about. I feel strangely out of the loop; I do not think that it is intentional, but when I have asked what this meeting is about, the issues that need discussing seem to be hedged around. There is nothing that can be discussed that can't be written, and I would just like a little forewarning. How can I deem the appropriateness of where this meeting should fall in my priorities if I can't know what it's about?
------------------
The R.A.'s reply in which she gets desperate.
somethings are just better said in person. i think that it would be the best thing. i do not want to share over email. i thin kin person would be best. i hope you understand .....
------------------
My reply in which I threaten to get the higher-ups in the housing staff's attention if I am not told what the hell is going on.
I'm very sorry, but I don't understand. If you and the other two roommates are aware of these matters, why am I the only one not allowed to know? If these issues are of such a grave nature, it might be best to have a third party present. This sounds like a very serious matter, and I think it might be best if the A.C. was a mediator again. I'll check my schedule, and then I'll see when there's a time that she can meet with all of us as a group.
------------------
The R.A.'s reply in which my threat apparently was the only way to get her to answer a simple. fucking. question!!!1!
its nothing that the A.C needs to be involved. she is on vacation.
they want to talk about food issues and air conditioner changing...and stuff like
that...
and maybe to try to get to know you. i am not sure.
let me know , ok
------------------
My reply in which I lay down the law and bring the hammer down... the hammer is not my metaphorical penis.
Amber,
Food and air conditioning? That's what couldn't be said in an email? Well, that's all you had to tell me. You made it seem like there was something seriously wrong, and I must say it is highly suspect when one asks what a meeting is about several times and is basically refused an answer.
The earliest I can meet is Wednesday (October 1st) at 7PM, no earlier/no later. I will give the five minutes you requested, but I have to leave right after to go back to the silkscreen lab as I have a project due on Thursday in that class (as well as an assignment in astronomy and a ten page paper due in Senior Project which I hope to get done this weekend but who knows). It might save some time for everyone to just say that I haven't and do not touched the thermostat, and it's fine where it is now. As for food, I don't want people touching my food, I don't touch other people's, and I haven't had any kind of problems with people in my things. And as far as getting to know me, I don't see why that is on the itinerary. Something like that would take much longer than five minutes, and also, should I not be involved in the decision who "gets to know" me? Is that not my right? The whole thing makes me uncomfortable as I am none of anyone else's concern. The food and air conditioning may be of some consequence, but "getting to know" me is an unimportant, frivolous, and wholly unnecessary enterprise and a poor excuse to deprive me of my studio time.
If 7PM on Wednesday is a problem, please let me know. The next time I could possibly meet is Friday (October 3rd) at 6PM.
- Savanna
--------------------
The main problem is that these are the types of girls who don't want to be my friend, they have no interest in being my friend, and have no interest in getting to know me, which if absolutely perfectly fine because I have no interest in being their friend or getting to know them. BUT! They can not understand that I don't want to be their friend. After all they are pretty, popular types! How dare I NOT want to be THEIR friend! *insert flounce here* So this whole meeting is a set up, and I refuse to be dragged down by this. I'm twenty-three fucking years old, I have my own friends and my own life, and I don't need this bullshit! I'm thinking about walking in and saying "Hello, my name is Savanna. I watch a lot of gay vampire porn, and I can fantasize about James Marsters naked constantly."
Tags: