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Have you ever felt like you were sorta alone in your fandom opinions? Sometimes, I feel awkward asking fandom questions for fear that it might unintentionally offend someone. I'm trying to stop arguing on the internet because Tara threatened that if I didn't stop she was going to make sure that my grave marker would read, "She argued on the Internet. A lot."
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*hugs* it's frustrating some days isn't it?
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The baby koalas help me with my frustration... but I feel like I have to make a lot of invisible posts that no one will ever see to just keep myself sane. I think I need to read more fanfic and stay away from non-fanfic fandom posts because I am losing my mind. I think it's just been one of those long, weird days.
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Hell, when I'm in a Torchwood fandom post, I barely dare admit that I don't miss Ianto and never really gave him a second thought. The way people act about him, it often seems like you're committing blasphemy by saying so.
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Just kidding, of course. XD I feel your pain.
I think the main problem I've been having for the last year is that I want people to understand that when I criticize Buffy I am not criticizing anyone personally. I understand that people identify with her, but I feel like identifying with someone doesn't make me that person. I am my own person, and more importantly, I am not a fictional person. I am a non-fictional person, and I can identify with fictional people without getting upset when someone criticizes that fictional person's actions. I just hate feeling like I'm stomping on someone when I lay out my dislike of Buffy as a character, which is really what my fandom emo-ness and all this stems from. *has a sad* :(
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Writer A: They hate my character because she's [insert disorder]! And I'm [insert disorder], so they hate me and all other [insert disorder] people!
Editor!Me: Um, no, they hate your character because she's a raging Mary Sue woobie villain whom you have capturing, torturing, and stealing from their characters, and who always has to have the last word and be best at everything, and all of whose faults they're supposed to forgive instantly because she's so misunderstood, and you keep foisting storylines in which she totally pwns their characters on them without consulting them beforehand. If you'd just -
Writer A: AHAH! YOU HATE [insert disorder] PEOPLE TOO!
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Oh, my lord... That's exactly what happened with the whole rage that started off my inbox getting spammed and trolled for almost two years now. *cowers and hides*
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It's one of the reasons that when there's a discussion post, if I note too many opinions dissenting from mine I just don't post anything even if what I would like to say doesn't seem that inflammatory 'cause it's not worth another kerfluffle anymore even if I'd really like to join in the conversation.
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Exactly! I suppose I could say that for those exact reasons is why I don't believe anyone could ever truly be a role model for anyone else, that people need to build their fulfillment upon themselves. Specifically, for Whedon's characters, I see a lack of self-reflection (and not just for the vampiric pun). They don't really learn from their mistakes; they just seem to get stuck in these self-destructive loops where nothing gets resolved and they just hurt themselves and others further, and I don't see that as role-model-y. I couldn't see myself pointing out Buffy or any Whedonverse character to a group of children as a role model... Maybe Fred or Tara... Then again, I couldn't point out Beowulf, Launcelot, Batman, Superman, or really any fictional character as a role model either. If one ignores or excuses the flaws, especially flaws which hurt others, then one is building an image of a role-model that doesn't exist, putting that person on a pillar without really acknowledging why they don't need to be up there on said pillar, then it's like one has just created a new character.
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As to the nativity creche, I am completely on your side on that. My mom works for the state and she has a hard time reminding people that in their cubicles at DHS that they are supposed to keep religious iconography to a minimum. Fat chance of that happening there. Angels and crosses everywhere in what is supposed to be a neutral place so that people feel comfortable.
The opinion that kicked off my emoness last night was I suddenly realized that most people feel that Buffy was kicked out of her house in S7. To me, no one forced her to go. They gave her an ultimatum (I hate ultimatums), but she had a choice in what she was doing. Either stay, rest, and listen to the others and their opinions or go. She chose to go break into someone's home and scare them into leaving instead of acknowledging how terrible her tactical decisions had been and getting some sleep in a relatively safe place. I don't feel like that's kicking her out of the house.
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I think one of my problems with the show is that every time there's an "intervention" for Buffy (there's been three, specifically, I think) is that they are staged by her friends and family so ineptly and then Buffy looks better, like the writers are trying to force sympathy and make the audience forget about why the intervention was actually necessary and that a better attempt to help her might have actually helped instead of causing more hurt and distrust.
And this probably speaks more to my problems with perceived "specialness," I generally dislike main characters. I don't like that it's all about them and that they are always proven right in the end even when they've acted horribly and treated people like crap. Three of fandoms leave me feeling this way, and they all have the main characters' names in the titles. It's a sign!
The thought of a theocracy gives me the willies! O_O;;;
ETA: For my spelling.
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*much hugs!*
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