OMG.

[fenderlove]

I'm having a panic attack literally. Oh, Lord, give me the strength not to smite the people I live with. Lousy frickin' bastards. The R.A. didn't know I was home, and I got to hear her lie to the other roommates about what I said in my emails. She said that I was jealous of her hanging out with the other two. I walked right out there and told her off. She instantly starts trying to shirk blame saying, "That's what you said in your email!" And I was like, "It was not! Do you want me to go get them right fucking now?!" She said, "Well, that's what it sounded like." Can she not fucking read?! Oh, my God. Then she wants some fucking sympathy from everyone because I was being mean. She's a fucking liar, and I'm going to the A.C. when she gets back from vacation. This will stop. I will not have it in my house. I'm losing my mind. I think I really am. I think that I'm losing all grip with sanity living in this house. Coping is not something I'm able to do at the moment. I just feel like everything's falling apart; this isn't senioritus- this is the whole world conspiring against me to try and make me lose it finally. I wish this panic attack would stop 'cause I can't breathe and I'm having some weird muscle spasms in my stomach. My nerves have finally been shot to hell, I think.

Comments

[evenstar-estel.livejournal.com]

Take out her knees with a baseball bat. Go to someone higher than the AC (what's an AC?) on Monday morning. And do not settle for less than complete satisfaction.

[fenderlove.livejournal.com]

The AC is the Area Coordinator. She's basically a non-student employee of the school who is over all the resident advisors. We've already had a meeting with her once during the first week because of these issues that keep persisting (she seems to think that she has a monopoly on my time and that it is her job to socialize me, since she believes me to be anti-social, which is something a R.A. should never call someone). Nothing that has been done thus far has worked. The R.A. is lazy and is incapable of doing her job properly; she was weeks behind in her health and safety checks! I've talked to other people on other floors of this building and they called her a psycho (and I didn't even say anything about her!).

[kidcyclone.livejournal.com]

This is why first semester sophomores shouldn't be RA's... there was nothing in any of your emails that indicated in any way you are 'jealous' of her spending time with your other two roommates, or that you are 'jealous' of any of your roommates for any reason.

CC the other two roommates on all your emails. And make it clear that they are being cc'd. The RA sounds like she is either stupid, or deliberately trying to be divisive and on some sort of weird little drama/power game.

I would email the three of them and break it down in bullet points very clearly. Stupid people often stop reading when they see a lot of text.

So I'd say something like: Dear X Y and Z,

I don't understand why it seems you feel like I 'don't like you', and are so concerned about my spending my time working on my senior project.

Yes, I am very busy. I am graduating in __ time, and have to fulfill my requirements in order to do so. When you are Seniors, you will experience this yourselves.

No, I am not 'jealous' because you guys spend time together. It does concern me that (RA's name) has interpreted my emails to mean this. I don't see why the four of us can't live together and respect each others' space and time. I will respect your possessions and space, and will clean up by myself in the common areas, as any good roommate would. I will not endanger your well being, make excessive noise, or create a fire hazard, and expect that none of you will either.

I am not breaking any rules, and really would appreciate it if you guys would relax and stop obsessing on me. I am not 'being mean' to any of you, I don't 'dislike' any of you, and I'm not 'jealous' of any of you.

If this issue is not resolved, and Amber, if you don't stop talking about me behind my back- which is extremely unprofessional, as an RA- and harassing me, I am going to take this to the (appropriate person at the next level above her).

By the way, by writing emails and CC'ing each person, in effect it is the same as having a face to face meeting, so if you want to do that, this would be an excellent way to achieve it. Also, it creates a written record for future review.

Sincerely,
Savannah

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Well, that's my suggestion anyway. I wouldn't go straight to the top of the dept right away personally, I'd go through the ranks- to the idiot RA's immediate superior, etc etc. You don't want to be put in the position of looking the 'unreasonable' person, which is what Amber seems to want to put you in.

This is absolutely retarded and you are right, you don't need this. Your job is to go to school for God's sake!

I wish I could help more, but you definitely have my empathy...

[fenderlove.livejournal.com]

Thanks so much. Your empathy is greatly appreciated. I've come out of my panic attack (Sarah and her roommate Becca) came to visit me and made me dinner. The AC is the Area Coordinator. She's basically a non-student employee of the school who is over all the resident advisors. We've already had a meeting with her once during the first week because of these issues that keep persisting (she seems to think that she has a monopoly on my time and that it is her job to socialize me, since she believes me to be anti-social, which is something a R.A. should never call someone).

[ceallaigh-hk.livejournal.com]

You need to involve the AC. Send the letter as per below, but I would go over Amber's head. She is too meddlesome with your life when your academics are clearly your priority. She needs to stop the harassment post haste.

[1001011.livejournal.com]

Please excuse this completely random barging into your livejournal but...I was scanning around in the Housematehorrors comm and I read your post about your first couple years in university. I randomly decided to pop over to your lj to see if things finally got better for you and apparently they have not.

I send you lots of e-hugs and tell you that I really honestly hope everything gets better. <333

Good luck.

(sorry if this was really weird/creepy or something ^^;; )

[spikereader.livejournal.com]

This sounds like a really horrible situation for you to be in. I hope the AC is back from her vacation soon (and agree with the cc'ing your other room-mates in on any email you send to the RA).

*kicks RA hard*