I still find it ridiculous that you're having to go to these lengths... and I actually suspect that they're completely in the wrong to make the two of you appear together to argue this out. As in, I suspect it has to be contrary to the rules... because honestly, it makes the kind of sense that's not. I can't imagine how they think it's a good idea or how they could possily believe it will actually resolve anything or make it easier for the two of you to live together.